I know Easter is a mile off yet but I'm seeing Eater eggs in the shops and what I want to speak about is relevant to now rather than April! So here it is...
Imagine a child on an Easter hunt, finding brightly decorated eggs hidden behind trees and long grass to put in their thatched basket. The task is proving to be a little difficult but they soldier on knowing there's a reward at the end, something chocolatey no doubt. Now imagine as they lean to pick up another egg that one has slipped out from their basket onto the floor and has broken. Looking at the broken egg, face turning sour, they drop the basket breaking all the other eggs and give up completely, saying something along the lines of "I didn't want the stupid chocolate anyway". Now, considering it wasn't even necessary to pick up all of the eggs to get the prize at the end, this would seem a very silly reaction, but we would expect this from a child.
Now imagine that the child is you, and that basket you hold is your basket of change, the eggs resembling every action you have taken toward your goals. I'm sure you can think of times in your life where you've had just one little slip whilst trying to make some changes, a momentary lapse in will power or enthusiasm and that's it, you give in completely. This is the "all or nothing attitude" of your emotional mind. If you're trying to give up smoking, eat healthily, save money, exercise or whatever it is you're looking to achieve... your emotional mind is often working against you and does very well to get it's own way. It'll moan and moan until eventually, you slip and - even though we may be able to disguise our tantrums better than children - underneath the surface our childish mind takes over and we throw all our eggs out of the basket as soon as we drop just one.
So... it's February already and you've not stuck to your new years resolutions? Maybe you didn't get past lunch time on the 1st of January? (yes you know who you are!) ...Who cares? Pick that basket back up because you know what you want to achieve and you know that what you'll get at the end will be worth the time and effort you put in now. Those eggs you had already collected (no matter how few...) they still count and they show you are capable, so go get some more!
Learn to recognise and control your childish emotional mind and you can start to make those changes in a calm and confident way without holding yourself back. I offer free consultations to help you understand the processes of your emotional mind and teach you how gain control of it using Hypnotherapy to put a stop to this kind of "self-sabotage".
Thanks for reading! :)